What I’ve Learned as a Wedding Officiant

When I first started officiating weddings, I focused on showing up, saying the right words, and making sure everything went smoothly. Over time, I’ve realized there’s so much more to this work. Being a marriage officiant means listening deeply, honoring each couple’s story, and holding space for a moment that carries real meaning.

Here are a few things I’ve come to understand along the way:

1. No Two Love Stories Are the Same

Every couple brings their own energy, history, and vision to their wedding day. One week I might be working with a pair who’s weaving together two cultures and three languages. The next, it’s a quiet elopement with a couple who’s been through a lifetime already.

These unique experiences are part of what makes this work so
rewarding—and why I always start with a conversation to get to know who they are and what matters to them.

2. Preparation Matters—But So Does Presence

Yes, I take time to prepare—asking thoughtful questions, reviewing drafts of the ceremony, checking the legal boxes. The most important thing I’ve learned is being fully present in the moment.

The ceremony doesn’t need to be flawless; it needs to be felt. People won’t remember every word I say, but they will remember how the ceremony made them feel.

3. Personalization Isn’t Just Nice—It’s Necessary

I’ve met couples who want to keep it classic and others who want a ceremony unlike anything I’ve done before. That’s part of the beauty of this work.

Whether it’s crafting a custom reading, blending traditions, or including a private vow exchange, I’ve learned a ceremony reflects the couple—not a just template.

4. Love Is in the Small Gestures

I’ve seen love in a couple giggling during their vows, in the way someone tears up when they say “I do,” or in a subtle glance right before the ceremony starts.

These moments are quiet but powerful, and they remind me why I do this.

5. Officiating Is a Privilege

This isn’t just a job—it’s a calling. I get to witness people choosing each other, often in the presence of their most cherished friends and family. That’s not something I take lightly.

Whether it’s a quick office visit to handle paperwork or a full day celebration, I treat each ceremony with the same care and respect.

Final Thoughts

Officiating has helped me become a better listener, a more grounded speaker, and a deeper believer in the power of connection. Every couple I meet teaches me something new—not just about relationships, but about life.

If you’re thinking about working with an officiant, don’t be afraid to ask questions. This is a significant moment, and it’s important to find someone who respects your vision and helps you feel at ease. I’d be honored to be that person if the fit feels right.